Max Lucado/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Recognize the name Max Lucado? I didn’t either before day. But he is an author, clergyman and believer in the human capacity to achieve and to grow in life. Here are two quotes, both of them in the spirit of Win-Win and mediation process:

“Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional”
It is wise to recognize that conflict with others is inevitable in life. But why make it a case for WW III? We do not always choose to be in conflict, but we surely can choose NOT to be in combat with others.

“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner.”
It sometimes feels way too sweet to carry a grudge or blame another for adversity. However, remember who pays the price for those feelings. Learn how to set yourself free from painful conflicts and confrontation.

Mediate don’t litigate.

Learning From the Past/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

On January 29, 2020, Fred Kaplan of Slate magazine, appeared on NPR to discuss his new book “The Bomb”. How close has the world come to nuclear war, Mr. Kaplan was asked. He replied that during the Cuban Missile Crisis in 1962, President Kennedy’s military advisors did not hesitate to suggest a nuclear attack on Cuba. President Kennedy held his peace but he had already decided on a path towards a compromise. If Russia removed its missiles from Cuba, the US would agree to remove its missiles that were situated in Turkey. A perfect compromise and a path away from mutual destruction.

The paradigm of the JFK decision in October 1962 is a reminder that however high the stakes may be, disputes can be resolved by logical, creative thinking. When parties look at WATNA i.e. the Worst Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement. Never give up on the possibility of a resolution to a dispute. You may not be saving the world, as JFK may have done, but you will have chosen a most constructive manner of achieving dispute resolution. Mediate don’t litigate.