Self-Respect/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

The pugilistic US Representative (R-Ohio) does not wear a jacket to public hearings. When asked if he ever wears a jacket, he said that when he needs to show respect (e.g. a visit to meet President Trump) he does wear one. By implication, this means that being invited to attend the Impeachment Hearing is not sufficient reason to show respect. A possible slight to his colleagues and/or to the American people? Judge for yourself.

It is difficult when sparring with an adversary, during a mediation session, to show civility and even respect. But at what price? Being ornery is a self-defeating stance. If you have self-respect, you can manifest this by showing respect to others. This applies equally to those with whom you disagree. Is wearing a jacket while representing the good people from the Buckeye state really too much of a sacrifice? Civility is always in fashion.

Mediate don’t litigate.

Expressed Feelings/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

The Program of Negotiation/Harvard University, published a post by Kathy Shonk, on December 12, 2019, entitled “Four Ways to Manage Conflict in the Workplace”. Specifically, the discussion included a treatment on the expression of emotions. Is it OK to express feelings of e.g disappointment, anger, hurt, etc. The answer to this question is in the affirmative. What can such expression accomplish?

*Expression of feelings is cathartic. It allows a party to be more comfortable with the ensuing discussion. The cards are now on the table.
*By being free with emotions, a party is seen in a more human context. They are no longer the enemy, but a party who feels aggrieved.
*Emotional release may lead to more frank discussion. It may encourage a reciprocal catharsis.
*Remember the maxim, never judge a person until you walk a mile in their moccasins. Free expression cal lead to greater understanding.