Listening for Meaning/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

There has been much speculation about the Trump letter to Erdogan that was devoid of ant political nicety. In effect it said, “Don’t invade Syria or you will be deemed a fool”. What was the thought process of our President? Some have suggested that the president works with “mirror image” thinking. If I think this way, then surely the Erdogan thought process is similar.

In mediations or negotiations, we assume that certain behavior from our opposing number is based on reasons that are clear to us. But perhaps we are wrong? A better way of proceeding is to listen carefully to what the parties say and how they say it. If that gives us no clue, why not be direct? For example, you might say “I believe you have done X for reason Y. If that is not so, please correct me.” It is worth a try and it certainly beats “mirror image” thinking. Mediate don’t litigate.

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